You know all those articles about millenials who live at home with their parents? Yeah, they're talking about me. I'm 23 and I still live at home while I try and land a graduate job, save up and basically just get my life together.
Living with your parents as an adult can be a difficult pill to swallow, but for so many young adults, it's a reality too many of us face with a bleak housing market and intense competition for jobs.
While I know how lucky I am to have parents willing to house me while I get my life together, sometimes I feel like a large pathetic child who can't seem to do anything right.
Here's a few tips for living at home as an adult I've found helpful (that hopefully you will too).
Do as many things independently as you can
Do your own laundry. Please, for the love of god, do your own laundry. When you're still living at home as an adult, you need to be self-sufficient to some degree or you'll go insane. Do your own cooking, wash the dishes, help out with the housework. It'll make you feel like less of a child and will make your parents less likely to kick you out after a few months.
Treat them like housemates
This stage of your life is completely different from the last one when you lived with them as a kid, so agree to treat each other as roommates instead of parents and children. It puts you on a more equal footing than you would be otherwise.
Get a job
I don't mean this in a "just get a job, you lazy entitled millennial". This is really for your own good. If your parents are like mine, any day you spend at home is filled with questions like "So what did you do all day" or "what time did you get out of bed?" It can be any kind of job - don't feel ashamed for working in retail while you're trying to land a graduate job in the field you've spent the last three years studying for.
Don't bring people over
I don't even just mean a romantic partner. Don't bring friends over. Keep your life outside of home and your parents will remain outside of your personal life.
Small gestures make a big difference
Small gestures like vacuuming shared spaces or mowing the backyard really helps keep the good vibes going. As often as possible, I vacuum and mop the house, clean the kitchen and bathrooms, wash sheets and towels and cook dinner every night. My parents basically have a live-in housemaid but I don't mind at all as it helps combat my guilt for still living at home.
Accept that you don't have privacy anymore
If you've had to move back in with your parents after a brief stint of living alone, you can no longer expect any privacy. If your door is closed, they will open it. If you go out partying and wind up sleeping on someone's couch, expect a barrage of texts the next day from your mum demanding to know where you are.
Realise that it's not all bad
If you've got parents who are willing to let you live with them rent-free while you save up and get your life together, you're pretty damn lucky. It's a huge luxury - not your basic human right as their offspring. Only a lucky few can rely on this so don't ever take it for granted.
Emma is just your average book loving, tea drinking, story writing, narcissistic millennial on an eternal quest for the perfect t-shirt. Ever since she picked up her first copy of Dolly when she was twelve, she always knew she wanted to work in magazines. She would describe herself as a bit of a hopeless romantic with an obsession for true crime and horror and a love for red wine, whiskey or a stiff gin and tonic. When she's not binge watching Netflix or buying things she can't afford online, she spends her weekends trawling through bookstores and eating her way through Brisbane.