The transition from uni to the real world is tough. Suddenly you've got all these new responsibilities and if you haven't already got a graduate job lined up, it can make the whole transition even harder.
But you're definitely not alone! Most uni graduates find themselves in this position so before you become overwhelmed with negative thoughts, read this.
Just because you're struggling to find a job, doesn't mean you are less adequate
Until now, you've always had grades to assess your abilities and now that you are struggling to get a job, you may be interpreting that as a 'fail'. Now is the time to clear your head of this mentality because this is not how life works. Getting a job is MUCH more complicated than getting good grades. There are so many factors involved, like what the company needs at the time, if the person who interviewed you was in a bad mood, if they even looked at your resume, if the person hiring is insanely busy that they took the recommendation of a friend to get it over with, etc.
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So if you're starting to question your abilities or your intelligence, take a step back and remember that your job status does not define you. The reason you don't have the dream job yet is not because you're not smart or talented enough to get it, it's because you simply haven't found the one, and the right opportunity hasn't found you yet.
Stop comparing your situation to others
Just because the girl you graduated with has already landed an awesome graduate job doesn't make her any smarter, better or more capable than you. Landing a job is tricky and depends on a million different factors.
Make sure you're taking care of your mind and body
You're going through a massive life change so it's crucial to make sure you're looking after yourself because what you put in your body really does affect your mood! Make sure you are eating nourishing food, getting plenty of exercise and not drinking too much alcohol.
Have your go-tos for those sad moments
Whenever I'm feeling sad or having a particularly bad day, I have a few things that help me get through it: playing with my dog, watching disaster movies, reading a book and for some inexplicable reason, I find housework very therapeutic! Whatever it is for you, have a few small go-to things that make you feel better.
Use this time to learn
Let's be real - you can't spend your entire day applying for jobs. Obviously you should be committed and do your best, but don't drive yourself crazy. This is (hopefully!) the only stage of your life, besides retirement, where you'll have this much free time, so take advantage of it. Learn about an industry you're interested in and experience it in any way you can. You don't need to work in an industry to learn about it so go out there and experience it!
Remember that you're going through a major life change
It's so important to remind yourself that you're in the midst of a major life change, so it's okay to feel anxious or sad. Transitioning from university to real life is a phase - and not just a two week phase, but more like a two year phase. These few years after uni are just the beginning of your life and thankfully, they're only temporary.
Talk to someone
Keeping your feelings inside will only make you feel even worse, so talk it out with someone - chances are, they've been in your situation before and know exactly how you feel. And if you're really struggling, see your GP who can refer you on to a psychologist.
Emma is just your average book loving, tea drinking, story writing, narcissistic millennial on an eternal quest for the perfect t-shirt. Ever since she picked up her first copy of Dolly when she was twelve, she always knew she wanted to work in magazines. She would describe herself as a bit of a hopeless romantic with an obsession for true crime and horror and a love for red wine, whiskey or a stiff gin and tonic. When she's not binge watching Netflix or buying things she can't afford online, she spends her weekends trawling through bookstores and eating her way through Brisbane.