Regardless of whether or not you plan a romantic dinner, an intimate weekend away, movie date night or some other way of celebrating your relationship with your partner, you can add some spice and make it unforgettable. Here are some tips to help you.
Let go of inhibitions
Before you can spice things up and create a memorable impression, first you need to be willing and ready to step out of your comfort zone. If you always do the same or similar things each Valentine’s Day, it can become the norm and seem boring or unexciting, which can fade into a distant and insignificant memory.
To step out of your comfort zone make sure you let go of any fears and self doubts around intimacy, being vulnerable, being judged, being rejected, etc. This will allow you to think outside your comfort zone, get creative and mix things up.
Add a little mystery
Rather than telling your partner what you have planned, be a surprise diva and amaze your lover with the unexpected. If you want your event to be remembered create some intrigue and secrecy around it. The build up to this special occasion is as equally important as the event itself.
Build the excitement and curiosity days or weeks beforehand. For example, keep your Valentine’s Day plans a secret, do a slow reveal and leave little cryptic clues for your partner. Create a treasure hunt with a map filled with clues, where of course, X marks the spot for your rendezvous. The location of your Valentine’s Day is less important. It is the journey of mystery which will be remembered. The journey is often more important than the destination itself.
Surprise and amaze
Keep whatever you plan to do, eat, experience, etc. on Valentine’s Day extra special. Abstain from the activities and experiences you plan on that day for at least a week so that when you do have them you can really enjoy them, and savour every moment. Reserve the experience you have planned for that special day, that way Valentine’s Day remains a unique memory for you both.
When you do have those experiences on Valentine’s Day, make them stand out in some way – uniquely and positively engage the sights, sounds, feelings, scents, tastes and smells so that they remain memorable. The more unique the senses around the event, the more memorable the event. Also remember that smells and scents are one of the most powerful senses we have, and these take us back to past memories quickly. Make sure the smells and scents you use are very pleasant to you and your partner.
That way every time you smell that scent in the future, it will take you right back to that wonderful memory of Valentine’s Day, and the positive feelings of that occassion will also come flooding back. This is a great way to keep the spark alive in your relationship all year long!
Dr. Vesna Grubacevic is an author, speaker, media commentator, the founder and Performance Transformation Expert® with award-winning company, Qt. She is the creator of breakthrough behavioural change techniques, holds a PhD, a BEc and has over 35 years’ business experience. She is passionate about helping people to improve their relationships and confidence. Her Amazon best-selling book, Stop Sabotaging Your Confidence, has also been gifted to Hollywood and Australian award winners, nominees, hosts and celebrities. For more free resources on improving your relationships, please visit www.qttransformation.com.
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