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How to detox your relationships in 2017

Written by Jessica Lunan

2017 is all about the good vibes.

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New Year, new start. And one of the best ways to ensure that the year ahead will be the best you’ve ever experienced is by letting go of any toxic relationships that may have been holding you back in 2016.

While it does sound quite harsh and difficult to do, once you have let go of people who have been negatively affecting your life you’ll feel as if a huge burden has been lifted off your shoulders. You’re happier, peaceful and are now surrounded by people who genuinely love and support you.

TBH, ‘aint nobody got time for negativity, and 2017 is all about the positive vibes. Here’s how to detox your relationships in 2017.


“What do I deserve”

Sit yourself down and have a long think about what you want to change and achieve this year. Think about your goals and the people in your life who you know will fully support your dreams. Are there any people who you feel constantly bring you down, push your buttons or have something negative to say about everything? If you find yourself knowing a few of these people, it’s time to consider either bringing up the issue with them, or stepping back from that relationship.

Cleanse your social media

Do you have Facebook friends who are constantly uploading negative comments, starting drama and are overall vibe killers? Consider going through your friends list and refining it to only being friends with people who you like. While we’re all guilty of loving a bit of drama every now and then, our happiness should always trump any goss.

Delete that f*boys number

And while you’re at it, all connections you have with him on social media. We know how difficult it is to cut ties with people you have feelings for, but if he is constantly making you upset and you’re losing confidence within yourself, it’s time to tell him “boy, bye”. By deleting these you’re lessening the temptation to text him, and opening yourself up for new relationships. As the quote goes, “a wound you always touch never heals,” the exact same goes for your relationships.

Frenemies

Nothing positive comes out of having friendships where everything is a competition and you have no trust. This isn’t Mean Girls, we’re all grown women and we should be supporting each other! A great way to test if you have a toxic friendship is to become aware how you feel when you’re around them. If you feel anxious and drained after spending time with them chances are they’re not the friend for you. Once you open yourself up to friendships where you feel supported, loved and you can be yourself, all aspects of your life will change for the better.

Let go of petty work drama

Unfortunately, some of us have to deal with co-workers that can bring us down. Whether they’re feeling insecure about their position or you feel are trying to sabotage your work efforts, sometimes it can all get a little too much. The best way to deal with this situation is to be the bigger person. Either calmly and respectively bring up your differences, or ignore their efforts to impact you. While at first that’s easier said than done, after time you’ll get used to it.

Forgive and let go

Nothing good comes out of holding grudges. You can’t expect to attract positive people into your life by holding onto past hurt. Once you let these go you’ll feel lighter and ready to slay in every aspect of your life in 2017.