How to create space for a new relationship

Out with the old, in with the new...

Whether you are in a relationship and you wish to make space for a new, more empowering romance with your current partner, or are wanting to attract a new relationship altogether, it is important to create space to attract the ‘new’.

Here’s 6 ways to create that space.

Temporal space

This means making time to nurture your existing relationship and making the effort to keep the connection and love alive. That may include date nights, weekends away, surprises, common projects or goals, etc. If you are seeking a new relationship, it means freeing up your time to go out socialising, on dates, and spending time with your new partner. Is there anything preventing you from making the time to take this action?

Environmental space

Have you made space in your life for someone else? For example, do your pets sleep with you leaving no room for a partner? Do you clutter up your environment with “stuff” to fill the needs that are not being met in your current relationship? If so, declutter your environment and fill that space with the love and connection that you really seek.


Are you still holding onto your ex’s engagement ring and energetically sending out vibes that you are “engaged”? Do you still see your ex’s friends in hope of keeping that door open with your ex even though you want to move on? Is your ex still on your mind? Are you still upset with your current partner for what they did years ago or what they have not done that you want them to do? Have you let go of these attachments and sent the vibe that you are available to either deepen your current relationship or attract a brand new one?

Out with the old, in with the new...

Head space

Have you let go of past limiting beliefs about relationships? For example, fear of getting hurt, fear of failure, I can’t trust people, fear of being alone, feeling not worthy? Do you have clarity as to exactly what you do want in a relationship rather than what you don’t want? Have you set a specific goal with your current partner to strengthen your relationship or a goal to attract a new partner (depending on your situation)?

Heart space

Have you let go of past anger, hurt, resentment, betrayal, rejection, disappointment, fear, loneliness, sadness? Is your heart healed and ready for a new relationship either with your current or new partner? Have you fully forgiven your ex’s and current partner so you can put the past behind you and move forward with unconditional love?

Habitual space

Are you too much in your comfort zone and unwilling to change your life to include another person? Too set in your ways and think that your way is the right and that your partner needs to change for you? Is your current lifestyle (like partying all night) out of alignment with the relationship you really want (to settle down and start a family)? Are there any habits (smoking, drinking, overeating, being messy, hoarding, etc) that you need to shed to keep your existing relationship empowering or to attract the partner you really want?

Make a note of which of the above apply to you, and which changes you are now committed to making and by when. Take action to let go of the “old” so that you are free to create the “new” you desire in your relationship with a partner.


Dr. Vesna Grubacevic is an author, speaker, media commentator, the founder and Performance Transformation Expert® with award-winning company, Qt. She is the creator of breakthrough behavioural change techniques, holds a PhD, a BEc and has over 35 years’ business experience. She is passionate about helping people to improve their relationships and confidence. Her Amazon best-selling book, Stop Sabotaging Your Confidence, has also been gifted to Hollywood and Australian award winners, nominees, hosts and celebrities. For more free resources on improving your relationships, please visit

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