You know that sagging, awful feeling in the pit of your stomach when you know that things aren't quite right anymore?
Sometimes it can be really difficult to know when a relationship is over and sometimes you know it deep down, but you need someone else to draw a Venn diagram and point it out for you.
Here are seven signs that it's time to call it a day on your relationship.
1. You don't trust them anymore
Of all the feelings, this one is probably the worst. When you suspect your partner is being unfaithful or even just a little sketchy in his interactions with a female friend or co-worker, it's easy to over think everything and drive yourself crazy.
Even though my ex never gave me a reason not to trust him, towards the end of our relationship I found myself snooping through his messages on the reg. He'd never cheated but the lack of confidence I had in myself and our relationship was a sign that I needed to be single and work on myself.
Whether or not your partner is actually cheating, the lack of confidence is a massive relationship killer. The best relationships are based on trust, so prioritise it.
2. You don't feel happy when you're with your partner
Not every day is going to feel like Christmas when you're in a long-term relationship, but when you don't feel happy around your partner anymore, it's time to take note. Are you guys just going through a dry spell? Is one of you going through a rough time? Or has that original spark of happiness actually packed its bags and left?
If you're both making efforts to spend time together and the happiness just isn't there, maybe you two have grown apart.
3. You stop finding their flaws endearing
In the beginning, their habit of quoting Austin Powers in Goldmember or the way they treated video games like they were VERY SERIOUS THINGS was kind of cute and amusing, but now it just really pisses you off.
4. You don't feel turned on by them anymore
In the beginning of a relationship, you can't keep your hands off each other. And while its normal for that initial infatuation to subside after awhile, it's NOT normal to feel like having sex with them is a chore. When the sex is gone, what you and your partner basically have is a housemate.
5. You don't make time for each other
Of course after the initial 'honeymoon' phase has ended, its normal to not feel like spending every waking moment together. But if you're consistently choosing other people or activities over your partner, your relationship might be in trouble.
In the beginning of my relationship, me and my ex were always out trying new things together and going on fun adventures. By the end, we spent our weekends entertaining ourselves in two separate rooms of the apartment.
By itself, this sign doesn't necessarily mean your relationship is done. But if it’s combined with a few of the other signs, it's a big red flag.
6. You dream of it being the way it used to be
You know that feeling where you wish you could rewind things back to the way they used to be before you had that sinking feeling in your gut?
7. The fact that you're reading this article
Looking for a sign? This might be it. In my experience, when you start questioning your relationship and think about breaking up, it's probably already over and you know it deep down.
Emma is just your average book loving, tea drinking, story writing, narcissistic millennial on an eternal quest for the perfect t-shirt. Ever since she picked up her first copy of Dolly when she was twelve, she always knew she wanted to work in magazines. She would describe herself as a bit of a hopeless romantic with an obsession for true crime and horror and a love for red wine, whiskey or a stiff gin and tonic. When she's not binge watching Netflix or buying things she can't afford online, she spends her weekends trawling through bookstores and eating her way through Brisbane.