If there is one thing that I know about any relationship, whether it is a friendship or romantic, it is that they require work and commitment. Relationships can be hard and that is not a reason to give up on someone, but how do you know when to call it quits?
Realising that you are no longer in love is not an easy feat. While all relationships are different and there is no generic answer to suit every situation, there are a few things you need to keep in mind that can guide your decision.
Ask yourself these questions:
Have those once cute habits your significant other become intolerable?
Maybe you once found the noise that he makes when he’s asleep comforting but now all you can think is ‘please be quiet’! Sure, this is somewhat normal in any relationship but if the person hasn’t changed you need to think about why what was once okay is now not acceptable to you.
Are you sick of trying?
Relationships are hard! They require work and constant growth. But you might find yourself at a point where you are not willing to try anymore, and that’s okay.
How often do you have that unbearable need to be with them?
Do you remember that feeling... when you first fall in love and all you can think about is that one person? You want to spend every waking (and sleeping) moment with them. While it’s completely normal to spend less time together when you are in a more stable, long term relationship, ultimately that should be the person you want to end your day and unwind with.
Do you actually still LIKE this person?
Relationships can become routine; it’s often easier to stay in a mundane relationship than face the pain of being alone.
Are you afraid of being alone?
Letting go of a big part of your life is a scary thought! Losing the comfort of your partner’s presence can really affect you emotionally. Make sure to talk about your feelings and look for support from your friends and family.
Words: Frances van Eeden