Dating is HARD, right? Even with the addition of apps like Tinder where you literally swipe to indicate interest, the modern dating scene can feel like a minefield. What does this text mean? He cancelled our date, does he really want to reschedule? WHAT DO I WEAR? It feels like there are all these rules, most of which are total BS, so how does the modern woman survive dating? We have some tips.
Dating isn’t a game
If it feels like your potential bae is trying to play games, abort mission. Someone who is genuinely interested in you will not mess with your mind or make you second-guess their intentions.
At first it’s normal to talk about his high-flying job – you did the general exchange of what you do for a living, et cetera. But if he seems to be constantly talking about all the things he can afford because of his fancy career, or how you should see his nice car, or how he’s going to take you to expensive restaurants, he is using his wealth to try to impress you. It shows insecurity, but also that he thinks women want guys for their money! Nuh uh honey.
Players gonna play
Sure, if you aren’t exclusive or looking for anything serious, he might be seeing other people. But to constantly make this known and point out that you aren’t his only girl is rude and disrespectful. Get outta there girl!
“Play it cool” is BAD advice!
Gone are the days of playing hard to get. Pretending you aren’t that interested so you don’t appear too eager is so high school. If someone is genuinely keen on beginning a relationship, admitting you have feelings for them won’t scare them off! Anyone who is scared off by that isn’t worth your time.
Don’t put up with it
The most important rule of modern dating: do not put up with anything less than what you deserve! Demand to be treated right and the good guys will stick around. Don’t make excuses for his bad behaviour. Life is too short to put up with f*ckboys and mind games! #slaymamaslay
Hanna Sloan is studying a Creative and Professional Writing degree at QUT. She grew up wanting to be either a writer or a professional dancer, or both. Nothing has changed. She is passionate about performance, fashion, and social progress, and is a confirmed #NastyWoman. Hanna is the proud curator of a shoe collection surpassing sixty pairs, and always thought Andie Anderson in 'How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days' was crazy for not wanting to write about shoes for a living. In her spare time Hanna can be found devouring a book or magazine, watching 'Friends' or asking her parents for Snapchats of the family’s two beagles.