Are you unknowingly shooting yourself in the foot?
Whether you like it or not, your language speaks volumes about you and in the professional world, people will judge you not just by what you say, but how you say it. There are certain words that convey insecurity and doubt in what you're talking about which strips the power away from you.
Here are seven common words to eliminate from your vocabulary if you want to be successful.
Filler words like "umm", "like", "whatever", "etcetera", "...and so on and so forth" strip your power away almost instantly. These are common filler words people use when they're trying to think of what to say next, however it dilutes the power of the words you use. It's better to pause for a moment to collect your thoughts and think of the right thing to say. It's only natural to hide behind phrases when you're voicing your opinion, but remember, successful people have the confidence to say what's on their mind and aren't afraid of their opinions.
Saying you will "try" to do something suggests to others that you're unsure of your abilities. It's an unnecessary word to use because if you say you will do something, people will already know that you will try. Saying "I'll try" makes people feel nervous and the last thing you want is for people to question your abilities.
Words like "very", "totally", "extremely" or "absolutely" don't add any value to the noun you're trying to highlight or describe. By saying, "the response has been good" you are being precise and strong. But by saying, "the response has been incredibly good" you are adding superfluous words for dramatic effect, where they aren't needed. When you use fewer words, those words become more powerful.
We're all guilty of letting this one roll off our tongues, but the word "just" always weakens whatever follows and softens your dialogue. By saying, "I'm just following up on my previous email" you are downplaying the importance of your email and not coming across as confident. If you struggle with this one, there's an email plug-in called Just Not Sorry that eliminates these words from your emails.
Of course you should always apologize when you're in the wrong, but the more you apologize, the less powerful and genuine your apology becomes. Use "sorry" sparingly and only in instances directly caused by you and not for instances that are entirely out of your control.
Words like "obviously" and "actually" can really rub people the wrong way because they suggest the other person doesn't understand the issue, or that they do understand when they don't. Making assumptions about other people's understanding (or lack thereof) annoys and frustrates others.
It's best to cut out unnecessary adverbs and adjectives from your vocabulary to cut to the chase and make a more powerful point. Instead of saying, "I somewhat understand what you're saying" it would be better to say, "I understand this but I don't understand this.”
Emma is just your average book loving, tea drinking, story writing, narcissistic millennial on an eternal quest for the perfect t-shirt. Ever since she picked up her first copy of Dolly when she was twelve, she always knew she wanted to work in magazines. She would describe herself as a bit of a hopeless romantic with an obsession for true crime and horror and a love for red wine, whiskey or a stiff gin and tonic. When she's not binge watching Netflix or buying things she can't afford online, she spends her weekends trawling through bookstores and eating her way through Brisbane.